I work in digital marketing. Several months ago a colleague, ‘Mary’ and I worked together to create a proposal for a monthly newsletter, which was approved. I do all the monthly work to produce it and I have no problem with it.
However I have recently realized that Mary continues to show my own work to senior managers despite not being involved in the initial planning stage. I thought the first couple examples might be unintentional, unless a colleague forwarded me a draft of the “Mary’s Newsletter” where he would remove the sender’s (ME!) Evidence to claim it as his own.
How can I move forward with my heroism-stealing colleague? He is extremely friendly in all interactions with me and has no idea that I have discovered his dirty secret.
A small but admirable tragedy of our distant-work era is the small workplace dramas that add to the intrigue of the day. Remember the gossip about that guy from marketing and that woman from IT scattering together? Remember the small thrill of trying to soothe a smile in a meeting because yours Working wife Very clearly their eyes rolled? Remember the office-wide freak-outs when someone’s lunch went missing from the communal fridge? At first glance, these may seem like silly things when we have suffered so many horrific losses and the lives of friends and family, the ability to see or embrace those closest to us – millions of jobs – but an office pre-epidemic for those who have worked, that Social fabric refers to something we haven’t seen fully emphasized in the last 13 months.
So thank you, anonymously. I don’t want to underestimate your problem, which would have kept me perfectly awake at night if it had happened to me but I, O O O O O O O O P O readers know they would be happy to read about this juicy midscale injustice know Mary is officially the new enemy of this column, And I’m grateful for that. (Juicy Small- and Midscale Consider this application for more questions about injustices. Email me All about your trifling work problems.)
Now then. The end result of this story, the moment Mary deleted your name from your email, changed my view completely on your question, but we’ll get there. The sad truth is that subtle heroism is always stolen at work. Often this is because the idea that someone has heard becomes relevant in another meeting and he brings up the idea that he heard – and “forgets” to give credit. This behavior is pervasive and sometimes not even appropriate to deal with, if it means spending your own discretion. (Of course that doesn’t make it acceptable)) While we love workplace captures, we don’t want to become full-time office detectives or notorious.
That said, these can be easy mistakes to make and being hypervigilant about giving credit is important to being a coworker. Remember the viral story about the strategy of female Obama workers. “Widening, “Where would a woman repeat the same thing made by another woman by emphasizing the idea publisher? Because it was necessary Research Shows that women are given more credit, less credit, And Punished for talking in the workplace so I don’t want to get too crooked even after individual examples of not getting proper credit, but I recommend everyone in this arena, especially men and white people, to question their own patterns.
My colleague and friend Scott Rosenfield has always been exceptionally deliberate and strategic about giving people credit, even at the risk of diminishing his own success, so I sought his recommendation. He told me, “Everyone should be evaluated in the workplace based on how much the people around them improve.” (He suggested the book by former Intel CEO Andrew S. Grove High output management For a broader discussion of this philosophy.) “In reality I think it’s basically a habit. Always ask yourself who else should get the credit and feel sorry for not getting the credit you deserve. It’s helpful to help a task force run these things by figuring out which of these blind spots can point you in the beginning. “